Sometimes I simply spin in circles, trying to find the best way that I can to help, to assist, to fix problems, or find solutions to problems where I may not be in the position to help directly. But the problems arrive one after another, and the reality becomes frustrating and my response slows, dizzy and finally falls jaded and exhausted. Starving children, slaughtered animals, rampant child abuse, elderly neglect, and violence against others based on religion, on power hungry egos, on unrelenting fears, on the need for profit. They spin and I spin to chase them. Where is the answer? What can I do to directly impact all of the issues, all at the same time and make the cruelty, pain and power struggle stop?
I remember what my grandma had told my dad when he was younger and he relayed the same words to me – ‘Realize what you can control. You can control you.’ So, I thought about this for a while. Okay. Control me. Concentrate on myself to have the most rippling impact on others. Lead myself. Take responsibility for myself, my attitude, my actions/reactions, my words, my awareness, my positive/negative mood, my intentions, my energy. Motivate and inspire myself to be the best me possible. Live as though I were a role model for myself and for anyone who may resonate with me. Makes sense, but is that enough? Well, more enough than spinning in circles.
For example, if I monitor my intentions in a situation and decide to smile with positive possibility and to act with a warrior voice of confidence and these actions resonate with even one person out of how ever many witness the situation, this would be a one to one ratio, a 100 percent impact.
In mid-September 2013, another person decided to kill others in a mass shooting. During some of the news coverage, there was a live press conference with the chief medical officer at the hospital trauma center that cared for the wounded and casualties from the shooting. Dr. Janis Orlowski gave the status of the patients, relayed how many had died and then, unexpectedly voiced her opinion on the violence that continues to spill out of the seams in this country. Her words received some news coverage attention and when asked, she assured the media that her words were spontaneous and from the heart regarding how she felt about the situation in our country.
I resonated with what she was saying and how she presented her opinion. This, to me, is an example of the one to one ratio. When the doctor gave her opinion, maybe it was not only what she was saying, but how she was saying it. From the heart, with positive intention, with no agenda other than a frustration with the violence against innocents. Was she making a political statement about gun control? She said that she was not, but even if she was, the political is all about the personal. Through her honest delivery and intention of her point of view, there rings a truth. And even if she reached one person and only one, she has affected essentially 100 percent. She is one person, the recipient is one person – one to one – complete.